My Story

Recently I was encouraged to tell my story. I know I have been open with you about many parts of my life, but I feel the need to tell my story. Buckle up.

My story is that I live with mental illness. I live with bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, and tons of anxiety.  I had anxiety and depression when I was a child, only I didn’t know what that looked like. I used to get anxiety at night when I was in bed; my eyes would pop out and my heart would race, but I didn’t know what was going on, and I didn’t tell anyone. I cried every day of my life until I moved out at 21. At age 14 I attempted suicide by taking a bunch of pills in the cabinet. I got sick during the night and nobody knew what I did. Fast forward a year later, and I had a very bad night with my dad. He was hitting me in the face as I lay balled up in a fetal position on the floor.  The worst part was that he kept moving my hand off the side of my face so he could hit me.  Later that night I told my parents that I had attempted suicide.  They didn’t understand so they did nothing.  I often wonder if my life would be better if they had gotten me help.

At age 20 I attempt suicide again while I am away at SUNY Cortland. I was home for break and I planned it ahead of time, so I took all the Tylenol I could find in the house. When I got back to school that day I started taking the pills by the handful. The ironic thing is that I was walking around talking to people as I was swallowing the pills. I went to bed and expected to die. I woke up hours later with severe stomach pains and then I started throwing up. I told my roommate what I did and she called the EMT. I locked myself in the bathroom and I kept vomiting. They kept trying to get me to come out and I told them to leave me alone; I just wanted to throw up in peace.  I heard them say they were going to take the door off, so I opened the door.  I was put on a stretcher and transported to the local hospital. I remember all the students standing in the hallway as I was wheeled into the elevator.  Too much time had passed so my stomach couldn’t be pumped.  They put a tube in my nose and down into my stomach to give me medicine to counteract the harmful effects of the Tylenol.  It hurt so badly that I dug my nails into the nurse’s hand;  I remember her recoiling back in pain.   I spent a few days in ICU, and then they put me in the locked psychiatric unit. My friends came to visit me, which was nice.  My parents got me transferred to a psychiatric hospital at home. I was taken in an ambulance; it was a 3 hour drive.  Later I found out my mom and my boyfriend at the time packed up my room and brought my stuff home.  I stayed for a few days and then I did outpatient therapy for a year.

I went back to school near my home and I got my teaching degree. I was an awesome teacher. I worked in the inner city schools for 5 years; those were the best and most difficult 5 years out of my 20 year career, which came to an end in 2014.  I had a nervous breakdown and entered the hospital the next day.  I learned coping skills like DBT and they put me on lithium. I slowly started to feel better.  Some days we got to go outside; it felt so good to feel the wind on my face and the warmth of the sun. I would take the soft green felt blanket, they gave us, and wrap myself in it and sit down in a lawn chair and just take it all in; after a bit we would get the wave from the nurse that it was time to head inside.  I spent 9 days in this hospital and I was lucky because it was a top psychiatric hospital and my insurance covered all expenses.

I tried to go back to teaching, but I relapsed, so I had to take an early retirement.  I have not been working and it is very hard some days; I miss my old life. I miss my home and my career; I miss who I used to be. I’m living with my parents while I wait for my case to be heard again.  In the meantime, I have become a mental health advocate. I went back to my college and spoke to the students. I went to the state capital last year and spoke to congressmen, and lobbied for mental health bills.  I am a volunteer for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. I am part of the committee that plans the out of the darkness walks. In addition, I make phone calls to my senators and send emails to my representatives. I have also had an op ed piece about mental health published in the local paper.

My doctor does her best to keep me stable, but bipolar is a moving target. I just had a manic episode. Do you know what it’s like to want sex so badly that you are thinking of going to pick up a stranger?  It is hell. Bipolar and hypersexuality go hand in hand.  Not everyone talks about the sex part, but I’m an open book.   I usually know when it’s coming because I can’t stop thinking about the cute guy at the store, or I cannot focus on anything because I am fantasizing scenes in my head. Usually I take extra medicine and it goes away, but the last one was a tough one. I had to take lots of extra medicine to squash it, which it did, but it left me like a zombie the  next day.  Then I saw my dr and she made some med adjustments.  Med adjustments are the worst because you don’t know if they are going to help you or hurt you.  Well this time it was the latter; I was dropped so low that I couldn’t function and while walking down the road, I thought I could just walk in front of a car and all this pain will be over.  My daughter is the only thing that keeps me alive some days.

Right now I’m okay.  I am using my tools; in the hospital they taught us to carry a tool set with us, like stones, or messages, or pictures etc.  Mine has roll on Nag Champa to quell my anxiety, a picture of my daughter when she was 5, a cross, stones, a prayer, and a crayon because I love the smell of crayons.  I meditate every day and that really helps with my anxiety.  Meditation helps me to feel grounded and focused. I have been doing lots of guided meditations on you tube and kundalini meditations. I take classes and I write and I read lots.

I have been living my life and doing things I enjoy. I go hiking now and it feels so renewing; I actually start to crave nature.  I just went to a concert last night (Rise  Against), and I have 3 more coming up (U2, Dalton, and the Goo Goo Dolls).    I struggled a lot with the recent terrorism; I cried hysterically for hours after the Ariana Grande bombing.  My daughter and I have seen her twice.  The benefit concert was so healing for me; I know it may sound strange that I felt so upset but I tend to be an empath and take in all the emotions. I responded as if I was there, which my therapist helped me get through, and now I feel empowered rather than scared.  I am not going to let anyone change how I live my life; I decided I will not live in fear.  Somehow I am slowly starting to accept this new world and I am choosing to spread love and kindness.  At the concert venue last night the whole place was different. They gated in the entire venue, which is outside by the ocean, and there was only one line for everyone to wait on, so you needed to line up early.  They had us empty our pockets and put the stuff on the table like at the airport.  We had the wand go over the front of us with arms out and then the back of us; the guy asked me if I had a belt on because it beeped. I said no and I lifted my shirt, and he said Oh a button!  So I flashed security my stomach…lol   Men had to take off their hats, our bags were searched and there was security and cops everywhere.  It felt scary yet empowering at the same time. I have been checked at a concert before, but the visual of the gates and the change of how we go inside and being checked this time, was a reminder of why we are being checked this time, and why everything is gated in, and why everyone has to line up in one line for the entire venue.  Actually, I was impressed with the changes they put in place.  The show was amazing and I felt so alive.

Well my story is not over, thank God (literally), but hopefully with my choices and decisions it is just a bend in the road. Living a life with uncertainty lurking in the background is challenging, but what else can I do but live my life? So that is what I am doing.

Thanks for reading my story. I hope you are all well. As soon as I get the chance I will catch up on your posts!

Everyone has a story. What is your story?

3 thoughts on “My Story

  1. jennymarie4 says:

    Traci, this is powerful. I read this more than a week ago and was so moved, but it was around Talee’s graduation, and I was extremely busy. I didn’t respond then because I felt like I couldn’t give it the attention it deserved. I knew about some of your life, but definitely not in this detail. Wow. I’m sorry you had to go through all of it. I literally cringed at the part where your dad hit you. I can’t even imagine how awful that must have been. And the times you took pills and attempted suicide. You must have felt so alone, desperate, and scared. I know your struggle is ongoing, but I’m really impressed with all the positive things you’re doing. You’re using tools you’ve learned from dealing with your mental illness, to help yourself, and others. I love that you advocate, and are active letting the government know what you’re fighting for. I know you love music and concerts, which is great. For me, music is healing. Just listening to it is therapeutic. Hope you’re doing well, and have a wonderful week ahead! Take care, Jenny

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    • tracihalpin says:

      Thanks so much Jenny! Thanks for taking the time to read my post and write me such a thoughtful response. When I got to the end I said Aww I love Jenny! I too still cringe when thinking of that memory of my dad hitting me. I appreciate your support and kind words.

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      • jennymarie4 says:

        This really made me smile! You’re so welcome. I enjoyed learning more about your life, even though I’m sorry to hear about your hard times. We’re doing great, thanks for asking. Had a big 4th of July/daughter graduation party. Tons of work but a lot of fun🙂Take care! xx

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